Trust yourself

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when their right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."— Marilyn Monroe

This picture is hanging in my hallway. I think she looks as though she may be contemplating some of her decisions that she's made along the way. I do this quite often, not always believing I've done the right thing. I would like to think that I trust myself, but I don't agree with the statement above one hundred percent because I think you have to trust others as well as yourself. Believe lies? Well that's up to you. What is a lie anyway, just something that you wish had a different outcome?
At the end of the day, the decisions you make, form what will happen next in your life tapestry. I do believe everything happens for a reason. And of course people change, they grow, they become better, sometimes worse, but we all learn new things as each day unfolds. Doesn't that make us a changed person? I think it does. I'm different than I was a month ago. And I'm glad, it means I've learned more about myself, what I like, and who I want to be. Every person we talk to brings something new to the table, if we're listening. 
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together" well I've discussed that phrase a thousand times. It's that perspective thing again. A friend once wrote a social media status update: "Perception is reality".

I liked it then, and still think about it now. A three word status update, written months ago, yet I think about it often. Pretty cool.
You notice that Marilyn is also smiling in this picture. It could be that she's not contemplating anything at all, she's just happy. Someone asked me once if I was really smiling all of the time, really as happy as I appear to be, or sound. I told them, if I'm smiling and sound happy, I truly am. You can't fake that. Now that doesn't mean that I'm "bubbling over"  24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Even Cinderella had to wash all of the clothes and do all of the chores, come ON. But she sings when she's doing it, doesn't she?
And so do I. =)
You choose what kind of day you're going to have, for the most part. Yes, things are going to happen that you can't control, that may bring unfortunate yuck to your day. That's life. I think the key is what you DO with that "yuck". Develop a skill set to handle it if it happens to roll around again? I think so. Thats what I choose anyway.

Today brings February 2010 to a close.
What shall we do with March?

Until next time,
Tiffany

PS March is my birthday month. Yes, I said month. Why not celebrate me all month instead of just one day. But Breakfast at Tiffany's on the 30th, okay? Bring the noise blowers, I'll make the coffee and breakfast tortilla rollups.

American Idol.....inspiring?

I know. I KNOW. But let me explain. I can't believe this happened, but it did. I had an inspirational moment occur when watching.....wait for it.....American Idol. Oh you probably guessed, it's the title of this post.
Was I inspired by Simon and his rude but dead on reaction to someone's voice singing whatever song they were inspired by? Uh no.
Randy 'from the dawg-pound' Jackson's laughing at someone's pitiful attempt at Somewhere Over the Rainbow? Nope.
Kara's hipster attempts at critiquing each person with flair? This is a big hell no because she's my least favorite judge. Don't misunderstand, she's a great lyricist. But I disagree with her often in her judging....

This sliver of inspiration came from someone that auditioned for the show, and made it through to Hollywood mind you, and we knew she would because she was interviewed before they showed her audition and there were no "antics", she was portrayed as a nice, normal human being.

She said: "You can't just take all of the no's all the time. Sometimes you have to turn the no's into yes's"

This can be applied EVERYWHERE in life, oui? *warning, I may slip in and out of French at regular intervals, being a Francophile.

What I gleaned from this one sentence is as follows:

Just because you are turned down for whatever you are trying for, does not mean that you can't keep reaching for what you want. Keep. Going. Have the "everything happens for a reason" attitude. Yes I know, it's a cliche. But one I believe in, wholeheartedly. Maybe your presentation needs tweaking #business. Maybe the person you think you like isn't ready for what you are ready for, or isn't the one for you and you just can't see it #relationships. Maybe the book you're writing needs more editing #dreams. Maybe the interview didn't go well because there is a better job waiting right around the corner #career.

If you say you can't, you can't. If you say you can, you most defintely can, and eventually will, given the hard work required for anything worth obtaining. My grandpa used to always say, "nothing in this life is ever free. If they tell you it's free, there's a catch". Pap, I listened to everything you said. (I wish I had written down more, but I remember).

If something isn't working for you, try a different approach. Don't give up, just be smart about it. There is, of course, always a time to know when to fold your hand, right?

Back to work tomorrow after this lovely four day weekend. I won't say tomorrow is my Monday though, I would never cheat Tuesday like that! TODAY was my Monday, and it was very relaxing. I hope yours went well.

Breakfast at 7a, be there.
Until then, sleep well friend
Tiffany

Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it. -Winston Churchill