Don't worry......be happy

I love the easy, laid-back days of the end of the year. Even in the industry that I work in, it seems to slow down some, and I'm using "some" gently. It doesn't come to a complete halt by any means. Telecommunications is a rapid, fast-paced technology that can never really stop the train. But when it slows down.....and everyone breathes a little, I can almost physically feel the relaxed atmosphere take hold, which is a much needed feeling, believe me.
Whether you do New Years resolutions or don't give them a second thought, I think knowing that the calendar is about to flip to page one brings feelings of newness, infusing energy into our days.

As I take the holiday decorations down to put away until next time, (always after New Years, never before) I've often felt sad to do so, but also happy to begin again, in a brand new year. The "bring it on, let's do this!" feeling overrides any sort of melancholy thoughts I might have.

I think goal-setting is always a good thing, but I've also subscribed of late to the "don't worry, be happy" attitude. It's important to invest your time and care in the work you perform each day, these five-out-of-seven days that provide the means for the two-out-of-seven days where life, in my opinion, really gets good. So by all means, get out there and kick some butt, make things happen, proudly sign your name to everything you've worked hard on. And for the new projects coming your way, embrace!

But, try not to stress about these things. Easier said than done, right?

"In every life we have some trouble......But when you worry, you make it double"

I'm sure you've heard the mantra, "will this matter five years from now?", "will it matter tomorrow, even?"

Maybe the answer is yes to both. Or maybe not. The point is, relax. Take it one day at a time, and do your best along the way. Stressing is not going to help, it will only rob you of a decent nights sleep.

Take a walk outside, weather permitting. Add some physical activity to each day if you can, and please, check out yoga if possible, You don't have to go anywhere, this can be done right in your own home. Breathe, stretch, inhale, exhale....you get it. If you schedule time for you, amongst all of the 'I-have-to-get-this-done!' items, the year will begin, and continue, with great balance.

"Don't worry......be happy".....2016 may be our best year yet!

Wishing you the happiest of New Years friend, see you soon!
Tiffany

PS With all of this holiday baking and cooking and eating and celebrating, I think the time is near to go back to the basics for Breakfast at Tiffany's. Scrambled eggs and fresh fruit it is! Or, how about oatmeal!

But if she loves you now, what else matters?

.....so then he asked why relationships were so hard and women so much like a puzzle that can't be figured out.....

Dispensing unsolicited advice is one of my top ten rules of "no-no". I won't do it. I refuse to. Now, if approached for advice, obviously I will try to give quality, sound feedback for my friends. It does make me wary at times, that feeling of responsibility that often comes with this sort of thing. I think to myself "oh but what if I'm steering them wrong, or, what happens if I tell them to try something and they fail, then what?"

Try and try again, is the answer to that. At least that's how I feel. Of course, there does come a time when you have to fold, and walk away, let's be reasonable.

"We need, in love, to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily; we do not need to learn it.” --Rainer Maria Rilke

So my friend, in trying to put himself back out there after a painful break up a few months ago, has become disillusioned by the dating scene and women and relationships in general. eek! Age-old questioning of the why's and why not's. I'm no expert but I am single and find that some people are more comfortable with the adage, "like speaks to like". If they feel I've been through similar situations, they are more apt to discuss them with me, than someone who they feel would not understand. Plus, I'm a girl, who better to help a guy friend understand, than the direct source. I had to mention that we are all made so unique, that I would never be able to speak for anyone other than myself. If a girl he likes is acting strangely or just simply disinterested, I can't provide the "why", she would have to do that.

I've been feeling sort of islandy today, dreaming of Hawaii vacations and beaches and laid back atmospheres. Bob Marley's "One love" came to mind, so with that playing in the background while I type this, it came to me.

What would Bob say to my friend?

You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you... every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”


― Bob Marley
 
"One love....one heart. Let's get together and feel all right"
 
So my friend(s), there you have it.
 
See you soon,
Tiffany
 
PS Let's go to Hawaii and eat fresh pineapple for breakfast and lay in the sun and sail across the waves on a catamaran while spinner dolphins leap out of the air with exuberance much like we should have, were we to do this. Okay?